Anyhow, my friend David Hanson (pastor of Grace RPC in State College, PA) is coming to speak to the students; he'll be speaking on triumph and tragedy in the book of Job. On my latest read through the book of Job, I was convicted of the quality - or lack thereof - of my friendship toward others. Here are the lessons I took away from Eliphaz, Bildad & Zophar on what not to do.
- Just "being there" does not qualify me as a good friend
- Just "being there" does not give me enough capital/sufficient right to say anything I want
- I will constantly be tempted to rush to judgment without all the facts; and when I do rush to judgment, I'll usually be wrong
- Theology isn't enough...theology without love kills. Theology without wisdom kills. Wrong theology kills.
- True sympathy is often impossible (who can really sympathize with Job??) - I can't assume I know what my friends are feeling or enduring
- Singing the same song sixteen different ways doesn't make it true - Job's friends really didn't say all that much, they just said it a lot.
- Just because someone's in pain doesn't mean they're wrong